Wednesday, June 28, 2017

David's Case For Parental Failure

2 Samuel 13:1-39 NIV

Amnon and Tamar

1In the course of time, Amnon son of David fell in love with Tamar, the beautiful sister of Absalom son of David.

2Amnon became so obsessed with his sister Tamar that he made himself ill. She was a virgin, and it seemed impossible for him to do anything to her.

3Now Amnon had an adviser named Jonadab son of Shimeah, David’s brother. Jonadab was a very shrewd man. 4He asked Amnon, “Why do you, the king’s son, look so haggard morning after morning? Won’t you tell me?”

Amnon said to him, “I’m in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.”

5“Go to bed and pretend to be ill,” Jonadab said. “When your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘I would like my sister Tamar to come and give me something to eat. Let her prepare the food in my sight so I may watch her and then eat it from her hand.’ ”

6So Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill. When the king came to see him, Amnon said to him, “I would like my sister Tamar to come and make some special bread in my sight, so I may eat from her hand.”

7David sent word to Tamar at the palace: “Go to the house of your brother Amnon and prepare some food for him.” 8So Tamar went to the house of her brother Amnon, who was lying down. She took some dough, kneaded it, made the bread in his sight and baked it. 9Then she took the pan and served him the bread, but he refused to eat.

“Send everyone out of here,” Amnon said. So everyone left him. 10Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food here into my bedroom so I may eat from your hand.” And Tamar took the bread she had prepared and brought it to her brother Amnon in his bedroom. 11But when she took it to him to eat, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me, my sister.”

12“No, my brother!” she said to him. “Don’t force me! Such a thing should not be done in Israel! Don’t do this wicked thing. 13What about me? Where could I get rid of my disgrace? And what about you? You would be like one of the wicked fools in Israel. Please speak to the king; he will not keep me from being married to you.” 14But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her.

15Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!”

16“No!” she said to him. “Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me.”

But he refused to listen to her. 17He called his personal servant and said, “Get this woman out of my sight and bolt the door after her.” 18So his servant put her out and bolted the door after her. She was wearing an ornatea robe, for this was the kind of garment the virgin daughters of the king wore. 19Tamar put ashes on her head and tore the ornate robe she was wearing. She put her hands on her head and went away, weeping aloud as she went.

20Her brother Absalom said to her, “Has that Amnon, your brother, been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister; he is your brother. Don’t take this thing to heart.” And Tamar lived in her brother Absalom’s house, a desolate woman.

21When King David heard all this, he was furious. 22And Absalom never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad; he hated Amnon because he had disgraced his sister Tamar.

Absalom Kills Amnon

23Two years later, when Absalom’s sheepshearers were at Baal Hazor near the border of Ephraim, he invited all the king’s sons to come there. 24Absalom went to the king and said, “Your servant has had shearers come. Will the king and his attendants please join me?”

25“No, my son,” the king replied. “All of us should not go; we would only be a burden to you.” Although Absalom urged him, he still refused to go but gave him his blessing.

26Then Absalom said, “If not, please let my brother Amnon come with us.”

The king asked him, “Why should he go with you?” 27But Absalom urged him, so he sent with him Amnon and the rest of the king’s sons.

28Absalom ordered his men, “Listen! When Amnon is in high spirits from drinking wine and I say to you, ‘Strike Amnon down,’ then kill him. Don’t be afraid. Haven’t I given you this order? Be strong and brave.” 29So Absalom’s men did to Amnon what Absalom had ordered. Then all the king’s sons got up, mounted their mules and fled.

30While they were on their way, the report came to David: “Absalom has struck down all the king’s sons; not one of them is left.” 31The king stood up, tore his clothes and lay down on the ground; and all his attendants stood by with their clothes torn.

32But Jonadab son of Shimeah, David’s brother, said, “My lord should not think that they killed all the princes; only Amnon is dead. This has been Absalom’s express intention ever since the day Amnon raped his sister Tamar. 33My lord the king should not be concerned about the report that all the king’s sons are dead. Only Amnon is dead.”

34Meanwhile, Absalom had fled.

Now the man standing watch looked up and saw many people on the road west of him, coming down the side of the hill. The watchman went and told the king, “I see men in the direction of Horonaim, on the side of the hill.”b

35Jonadab said to the king, “See, the king’s sons have come; it has happened just as your servant said.”

36As he finished speaking, the king’s sons came in, wailing loudly. The king, too, and all his attendants wept very bitterly.

37Absalom fled and went to Talmai son of Ammihud, the king of Geshur. But King David mourned many days for his son.

38After Absalom fled and went to Geshur, he stayed there three years. 39And King David longed to go to Absalom, for he was consoled concerning Amnon’s death.

David's Case For Parental Failure 

Everyone must have been struck by the remarkable fact that while David was so admirable as a governor of a kingdom, he was so unsuccessful as a ruler of his own house.

1. First of all, in accounting for the troubles of his house, we have again to notice his plurality of wives - a sure source not only of domestic trouble, but of ungodliness too. The training of the young, and all the more since the Fall, is attended with very great difficulties; and unless father and mother be united, visibly united, in affection, in judgment, and in piety, the difficulty of raising a godly seed is very greatly increased. In David's house there must have been sad confusion. There could have been no happy and harmonious co-operation between father and mother in training the children.

2. Further, David's own example, in certain respects, was another cause of the ill-ordered state of his family. A parent may have a hundred good qualities, and but very few bad, but the risk of his children adopting the bad is much greater than the likelihood of their copying the good. The bent of their fallen nature inclines them to the one; only Divine Grace can draw them to the other. The character of David was singularly rich in fine qualities, but it was also marked by a few flaring defects. One was, proneness to animal indulgence; another, the occasional absence of straightforwardness. These were the very defects which his children copied.

3. A third cause of David's failure in the government of his family was the excessive, even morbid tenderness of his feelings towards his children - especially some of them. Perhaps a fourth reason may be added for David's ill success in his family - though of this there is less positive proof than of the rest - he may have thought of his family circle as too exclusively a scene for relaxation and enjoyment - he may have forgot that even there is a call for much vigilance and self-denial. Men much harassed with public business and care are prone to this error. In truth, there is no recreation in absolute idleness, and no happiness in neglect of duty. True recreation lies not in idleness, but in change of employment, and true happiness is found not in neglecting duty, but in its performance.

Have Mercy On Me, GOD

(The incident recorded in 2 Samuel 11~12 is the basis of Psalm 51 and other repentant Psalms of David. - Blogger)

Psalm 51

For the director of music. A psalm of David. When the prophet Nathan came to him after David had committed adultery with Bathsheba.

1Have Mercy On me, O GOD,
According to YOUR Unfailing Love;
According to YOUR Great Compassion
Blot Out my transgressions.

2Wash away all my iniquity
and Cleanse me from my sin.

3For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is always before me.

4Against YOU, YOU Only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in YOUR Sight;

So YOU Are Right in YOUR Verdict
and Justified when YOU Judge.
5Surely I was sinful at birth,
sinful from the time my mother conceived me.

6Yet YOU Desired faithfulness even in the womb;
YOU Taught me wisdom in that secret place.
7Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;

wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.

8Let me hear joy and gladness;
let the bones YOU Have Crushed rejoice.

9Hide YOUR Face from my sins
and Blot Out all my iniquity.
10Create in me a pure heart, O GOD,
and Renew a steadfast spirit within me.

11Do not cast me from YOUR Presence
or Take YOUR HOLY SPIRIT from me.
12Restore to me the joy of YOUR Salvation
and Grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.

13Then I will teach transgressors YOUR Ways,
so that sinners will turn back To YOU.
14Deliver me from the guilt of bloodshed, O GOD,
and my tongue will sing of YOUR Righteousness.
15Open my lips, LORD,
and my mouth will declare YOUR Praise.

16YOU Do Not Delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it;
YOU Do Not Take Pleasure in burnt offerings.
17My sacrifice, O GOD, is a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart
YOU, GOD, Will Not Despise.

18May it please YOU to prosper Zion,
to build up the walls of Jerusalem.
19Then YOU Will Delight In the sacrifices of the righteous,
in burnt offerings offered whole;
then bulls will be offered on your altar.

You Are The Man - Attah haish(אַתָּ֣ה הָאִ֑ישׁ)

2 Samuel 12:1-31 NIV

Nathan Rebukes David

1The LORD Sent Nathan to David. When he came to him, he said, 

“There were two men in a certain town, one rich and the other poor. 2The rich man had a very large number of sheep and cattle, 3but the poor man had nothing except one little ewe lamb he had bought. He raised it, and it grew up with him and his children. It shared his food, drank from his cup and even slept in his arms. It was like a daughter to him.

4“Now a traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of his own sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him. Instead, he took the ewe lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for the one who had come to him.”

5David burned with anger against the man and said to Nathan, 

“As Surely As The LORD Lives, the man who did this 

must die! 

6He must pay for that lamb four times over, because he did such a thing and had no pity.”

7Then Nathan said to David,

You are the man!

This Is What The LORD, The GOD of Israel, Says:

‘I Anointed you king over Israel, and I Delivered you from the hand of Saul. 8I Gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I Gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I Would Have Given you even more. 9Why did you despise The WORD of The LORD by doing what is evil in HIS Eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites. 10Now, therefore, the sword will never depart from your house, because you despised ME and took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.’

11“This Is What The LORD Says:

Out of your own household I AM Going To Bring 

calamity on you. Before your very eyes I Will Take 

your wives and Give them to one who is close to you, 

and he will sleep with your wives in broad daylight. 

12 You did it in secret, but I Will Do this thing in broad 

daylight before all Israel.’ ”

13Then David said to Nathan, 

“I have sinned against The LORD.”

Nathan replied, 

“The LORD Has Taken Away your sin. You are not going to die. 14But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for The LORD, the son born to you will die.”

15After Nathan had gone home, The LORD Struck the child that Uriah’s wife had borne to David, and he became ill. 16David pleaded with GOD for the child. He fasted and spent the nights lying in sackclothb on the ground. 17The elders of his household stood beside him to get him up from the ground, but he refused, and he would not eat any food with them.

18On the seventh day the child died. David’s attendants were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they thought, “While the child was still living, he wouldn’t listen to us when we spoke to him. How can we now tell him the child is dead? He may do something desperate.”

19David noticed that his attendants were whispering among themselves, and he realized the child was dead. “Is the child dead?” he asked.

“Yes,” they replied, “he is dead.”

20Then David got up from the ground. After he had washed, put on lotions and changed his clothes, he went into The House of The LORD and worshiped. Then he went to his own house, and at his request they served him food, and he ate.

21His attendants asked him, “Why are you acting this way? While the child was alive, you fasted and wept, but now that the child is dead, you get up and eat!”

22He answered, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, ‘Who knows? The LORD May Be Gracious To me and let the child live.’ 23But now that he is dead, why should I go on fasting? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.”

24Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. 

The LORD Loved him; 25and Because The LORD Loved him, HE Sent WORD through Nathan the prophet to name him 


26Meanwhile Joab fought against Rabbah of the Ammonites and captured the royal citadel. 27Joab then sent messengers to David, saying, “I have fought against Rabbah and taken its water supply. 28Now muster the rest of the troops and besiege the city and capture it. Otherwise I will take the city, and it will be named after me.”

29So David mustered the entire army and went to Rabbah, and attacked and captured it. 30David took the crown from their king’sd head, and it was placed on his own head. It weighed a talente of gold, and it was set with precious stones. David took a great quantity of plunder from the city 31and brought out the people who were there, consigning them to labor with saws and with iron picks and axes, and he made them work at brickmaking.f David did this to all the Ammonite towns. Then he and his entire army returned to Jerusalem.

You are the man! אַתָּ֣ה הָאִ֑ישׁ (Attah haish)

Nathan said to David, You are the man - These awful words pierced his heart, aroused his conscience, and brought him to his knees. The sincerity and depth of his penitent sorrow are evinced by the Psalms he composed (Psalm 32:1-11; 51:1-19; 103:1-22).

He was pardoned, so far as related to the restoration of the Divine Favor. But as from his high character for piety, and his eminent rank in society, his deplorable fall was calculated to do great injury to the cause of religion, it was necessary that GOD Should Testify His Abhorrence of sin by leaving even His Own servant to reap the bitter temporal fruits.

David was not himself doomed, according to his own view of what justice demanded (2 Samuel 12:5); but he had to suffer a quadruple expiation in the successive deaths of four sons, besides a lengthened train of other evils.


The name Jedediah comes from Yedidya, a Hebrew name meaning "Friend of GOD" or "Beloved of GOD". In the Bible, Jedidiah was the “blessing" name given by GOD through prophet Nathan, in infancy to SolomonKing David's second son by Bathsheba.